Moms are constantly in overdrive. If you are a mom, you get this. You are busy balancing work, life, family and then you have your dream. Pursue your goals without the mom guilt.
What does it all mean though?
Do you do all the obligatory tasks before you work on yourself? Does it make you selfish if you put those tasks to the side? These are questions that you must ask yourself regularly.
When did it become okay to put your dream on hold? Mom guilt tends to do that. It’s never done on purpose of course. This doesn’t mean that you forget about the important things that make up your daily life.
Give Yourself Permission
It does mean giving yourself permission to pursue the things that make you happy. The kind of stuff that gets you excited. You see you were meant for more in this crazy life.
You can still be the best mom, friend, wife etc. That part doesn’t change. When you postpone your dreams and goals life ends up happening anyway.
You are made up of such tiny intricate pieces that make you unique. Each piece is part of who you are meant to be. Pieces that end up completing the puzzle due to the decisions that you made.
We all have a destiny, right? It doesn’t just happen in your favorite television series, a fairytale or in someone else’s life. Yes, even the Hallmark Channel. Your destiny has a higher rate of becoming real when you let go of the mom guilt.
The guilt that tugs at your heartstrings for wanting to become a better person. You can still be a good person, but pursuing your calling takes it to another level. You impact your well-being in a positive way.
Dreams aren’t easy when you have so much that you’re responsible for. Yet that is part of the appeal for some of us. There is something about that challenge that makes you want it more.
Make Your Goals A Priority
Begin having those conversations with your loved ones. Tell them all about it. Explain why it is important to include that time on your schedule.
Find a way to prioritize the main things that will add value to your life. Put them in order of importance and remember to be flexible. What worked for one week may not work for the next one.
Be okay with that because it’ll make you more adaptable. Everyone gets 7 days a week and 24 hours a day. What you decide to do with that time is everything.
You will have busy days, challenging days, but most of all you will have great days. It might be a day where you aren’t working on your dream, but you are spending time with a loved one.
That still contributes to your well-being. Fill your days with the things that matter. Whatever you do don’t jump on the comparison train. You will end up being very disappointed.
Stop Feeding the Naysayers
Yes, society tries to dictate how and if we should do things. You will encounter the know it all’s and the dream crushers. They feed off your guilt.
What do you then? You starve them by not giving them the fuel to keep that going. Instead, find your circle that want the best for you.
Talk with other moms that you admire and ask questions. How did they make it work? Implement their advice if it suits your goals.
If you are someone that is struggling with mom guilt don’t feel bad. Let it go and move forward with an optimistic mindset.
Set up your plan of success by starting today what you thought you’d do one day. Your one day can be now.
Do your best to start looking towards the horizon and your best to not looking back. That goal that you see in the distance isn’t as far as you think.