When chasing your dream means letting go. Sometimes you start chasing the wrong things. That is when it is a good time to reflect on what might not be working.
It is so easy to get caught up on all the latest technology and community groups online. Although those are great maybe letting go of some will help you be more productive.
It can be super stressful trying to manage multiple social media platforms. You can easily get caught up on what everyone else is doing and start to compare yourself to others. Why not choose one or two platforms to be on instead?
Take a Hiatus
Think about taking a small break from some of those things. Maybe you are not quite ready to let go of it yet. That is perfectly normal too.
Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care. It simply means that you are putting your energy into other things. Tasks or moments that will keep you on track to productivity with your dream.
Moms are constantly in overdrive. If you are a mom, you get this. You are busy balancing work, life, family and then you have your dream. Pursue your goals without the mom guilt.
What does it all mean though?
Do you do all the obligatory tasks before you work on
yourself? Does it make you selfish if you put those tasks to the side? These are
questions that you must ask yourself regularly.
When did it become okay to put your dream on hold? Mom
guilt tends to do that. It’s never done on purpose of course. This doesn’t mean
that you forget about the important things that make up your daily life.
Give Yourself Permission
It does mean giving yourself permission to pursue the things that make you happy. The kind of stuff that gets you excited. You see you were meant for more in this crazy life.
You can still be the best mom, friend, wife etc. That
part doesn’t change. When you postpone your dreams and goals life ends up
You are made up of such tiny intricate pieces that make you unique. Each piece is part of who you are meant to be. Pieces that end up completing the puzzle due to the decisions that you made.
We all have a destiny, right? It doesn’t just happen in your favorite television series, a fairytale or in someone else’s life. Yes, even the Hallmark Channel. Your destiny has a higher rate of becoming real when you let go of the mom guilt.
The guilt that tugs at your heartstrings for wanting
to become a better person. You can still be a good person, but pursuing your
calling takes it to another level. You impact your well-being in a positive way.
Dreams aren’t easy when you have so much that you’re
responsible for. Yet that is part of the appeal for some of us. There is something
about that challenge that makes you want it more.
Make Your Goals A Priority
Begin having those conversations with your loved ones.
Tell them all about it. Explain why it is important to include that time on
Find a way to prioritize the main things that will add value to your life. Put them in order of importance and remember to be flexible. What worked for one week may not work for the next one.
Be okay with that because it’ll make you more
adaptable. Everyone gets 7 days a week and 24 hours a day. What you decide to
do with that time is everything.
You will have busy days, challenging days, but most of
all you will have great days. It might be a day where you aren’t working on
your dream, but you are spending time with a loved one.
That still contributes to your well-being. Fill your days
with the things that matter. Whatever you do don’t jump on the comparison train.
You will end up being very disappointed.
Stop Feeding the Naysayers
Yes, society tries to dictate how and if we should do
things. You will encounter the know it all’s and the dream crushers. They feed off
What do you then? You starve them by not giving them
the fuel to keep that going. Instead, find your circle that want the best for
Talk with other moms that you admire and ask
questions. How did they make it work? Implement their advice if it suits your
If you are someone that is struggling with mom guilt don’t feel bad. Let it go and move forward with an optimistic mindset.
Set up your plan of success by starting today what you
thought you’d do one day. Your one day can be now.
Do your best to start looking towards the horizon and
your best to not looking back. That goal that you see in the distance isn’t as
far as you think.
Taking Your Shortcomings from One Year to the Next
Taking your shortcomings from one year to the next is beneficial. How do you do that?
First, look at what things didn’t work for you in the past year. Maybe that was starting a new project that you never completed. Possibly, you intended on working out and losing weight, but you didn’t.
Make a list of the things that didn’t work out on a sheet of paper. Now answer as honestly as you can on why they didn’t. What could you have done differently?
Many times, you don’t succeed at something because you gave up too soon. This is part of procrastination and being human. So, give yourself some grace.
Decide what you will do this year
Look at the list of things that didn’t work along with your answers on why they did not. Take out a new sheet of paper. Make a list of the things you will decide to do.
Yes, it’s that kind of list. It’ll look super intimidating and maybe even a carbon copy of last year’s list. That’s okay.
What you are trying to do is see what you are willing to say yes to. That’s the game-changer right there. Your self-talk has a lot of say in this.
On one shoulder you have your cheerleader getting you all pumped up. Yet, on your other shoulder, you have the skeptic. The one trying to convince you that it’s a bad idea or not good enough for you.
Here is where you decide what part of yourself that you will listen to. The things that you choose to spend time on will dictate your results. Plan on dedicating time to the “yes” things on your list.
Those will be the things that will determine your success. Make yourself a priority. Even if it means saying no to old habits.
It won’t be easy at times but learn to start the process. You owe it to yourself to find out what you can do. Instead of regretting not ever trying or putting in the time.
Set yourself up for success
Check back with yourself at the end of each day. Give yourself a pat on the back for what you did accomplish. Take it one day at a time.
You have the opportunity to do some amazing things this year. Whether those things are personal goals or professional ones you get to choose. That is a big deal, my friends.
My word this year is “time.” I get to choose how I spend it and how I will respect it. It’s huge on my list because it’ll encompass all that I care about with every minute. From spending quality time with loved ones and on myself.
As you can imagine I plan on making sure I learn all that I can from last year. It’s a chance to get a fresh perspective on it all. Like I said it all goes back to my word of the year.
In the meantime, I’ll leave it at that. My future success is waiting for me. The same holds true for you. Just wait and see.
The idea of starting something new can feel overwhelming at first. When I decided to launch my own stationery cards, I had no idea where to start. However, I talked with my good friend Linda Mendible and she helped with that process.
I came up with the words and she helped with the design by using Canva . It was a match made in heaven. It was important for me to get them as perfect as possible.
I wanted the cards to be simple, pretty and easy to give to someone. Going through a local printer was something that felt dear to my heart. Working with someone in my community helped me support a local business too.
I found it easy to sell my cards through Etsy. The other way was by using social media to help spread the word. Don’t forget that word of mouth is still a great way to go.
Getting started is the hardest part because of fear. It doesn’t have to be that way. Maybe you want to launch something too. Do you feel like you don’t know where to start?
Grab a notebook and a pen. Write down what it is that you would like to do. Include what you already know and what you need to research in order to get started.
Ask other people how they did it. Is there someone that you know that can help guide you? Consider investing in a coach that can help you set up a plan.
Your mindset plays a huge role in all of this too. If you think that you can’t you won’t. If you believe that you can you will.
I came up with writing several cards before I settled on the right ones. That is how I came up with the Dream Collection.
This collection was meant to inspire others to keep going. To think about continuing with that dream in their heart.
Everyone has a talent. That special something that they are meant to do. You will never know it until you try.
Think about all the things that you have tried in your lifetime. Some were easier than others, right? The good news is that when you do the initial legwork it isn’t as complicated.
Give yourself some grace when you begin the process. Don’t expect to know everything either. It all works by trial and error. If it doesn’t work the first time you must keep going until it does.
Go ahead and dust off what you are waiting to start. It’s a good day for making one of your dreams come to life.
Growth with your dream takes time. There are some things that you must do alone and some that include doing a bit more. I have found 3 ways networking can spark growth.
First, get out of your comfort zone for starters. It is so much easier to stay within the confines of what you are used to. It’s predictable though and holds no mystery.
However, when you branch out by networking it adds a new element to your plan. There is something to be said for getting around other like-minded individuals. They bring excitement to your goals.
Get in front of other people
By getting in front of other people you open up your potential. You start making connections with people. Sometimes those connections become valued friendships.
Not only are you helping sharpen up your networking skills, but you end up helping others too. Not everyone looks forward to meeting new people. The world consists of both introverts and extroverts.
Connecting with new individuals creates an opportunity to learn from them as well. You never know who you will end up helping in return.
Immersing yourself with networking sparks your creative spirit. Maybe talking with someone that is doing something like what you are doing can fuel your desire to keep going. Listening to a different way that someone talks about your craft can help broaden your vision.
Any time that you are on your own it’s easy to think that your way is the only way. Opportunities to learn from others happens when you take the chance. That often means getting out there and being around other people.
I have made it a point to network whenever possible. Luckily, I have attended a couple of What Women Want National Conferences and I made some wonderful friends that way. Listening to keynote speakers to hear about how they got started with their dream fascinates me.
You gain confidence in yourself
The second way is that networking gives you confidence. Even if you are the type that wants to take flight and retreat it can happen. If you stick around long enough to find out that is. Once you face your inner self-talk and give yourself a pep talk it happens.
By doing something that feels strange, awkward and uncomfortable you break the habit. That habit could be you avoiding networking opportunities. Each time that you participate you learn what worked and what didn’t.
Going to a networking event means that you may not know it all, but you go for it anyway. You break the ice a little each time that you go. You let down your guard enough to start feeling confident to do so.
Gain success by following up
Last but not least is the third-way networking can spark your growth. Once that you attend a networking event it is easy to collect a business card and forget about it. Instead, go over the cards that benefit you the most. What kind of people attended the event that you could follow up with?
Maybe it is someone that is doing something like what you are doing. Possibly it is someone that could use your services or the other way around. Don’t be afraid to help other people. Maybe that contact isn’t for you, but you know someone that could benefit from their services. Right there you will be helping a couple of people.
Following up after a networking event isn’t always about you. It can mean more than that. When you contact someone remember to thank them for speaking with you at the event. Take it from there and the rest will follow.
Networking gives you an opportunity to do all these things. It inspires and motivates you to keep on going and get you excited again. It is like taking in a breath of fresh air.
Give it a chance, think positive and enjoy yourself. Find the kind of events that work best for you. I have definitely found my kind of events and I know that you will too.
Here we are in November 2018. A month where you celebrate by being thankful and you look forward to the big feast. It is also a time to think about starting your dream before a new year.
Let me tell you why November is the perfect time to start. First, you owe it to yourself to begin. Starting something that you have always thought of doing is rewarding.
It is going towards that thing that has been keeping you up at night. Only you know what that is. At this time of year, helps you look at how fast time has flown.
Have you spent it doing what you are passionate about?
Time to reflect
If you haven’t, ask yourself why not? I like to reflect on how far I have come with writing for instance. I go back to the beginning of the year.
This helps me gauge my progress to date. If you haven’t started your dream yet it is a good exercise to start doing. Look at how you have spent your time so far.
Where might you omit things that aren’t benefiting you?
Most might look at all these months and notice that they all had some things in common. Perhaps that was working a 9-5 job, raising a family, being a wife or significant other. These are the usual things.
Start the process
However, what step could you start taking now? Some type of action that requires you to go for it. Look at it as a way to stop not put it off until the new year is underway. Your time is now.
It is like someone giving you the head start. When in fact that person is you. You give yourself permission to start that diet, begin that side business or a brand-new career altogether.
Maybe it is starting the process to register for college and go back to school. It could be that you have always wanted to start a hobby. What is it that you want to start today?
If you have already started the process but have been procrastinating, get back on track. You would be surprised at what you can do before the start of 2019. That is what keeps me going.
Knowing the time that I still have left to submit articles. The opportunity to publish new content, freelance as a proofreader and so many other things under my writer life. I love knowing that I can still finish strong in 2018.
The same holds true for you. All it takes is that initial first step towards that thing that beckons you. Think of it as a gift that is waiting to be opened.
Are you ready to reveal what is underneath all that sparkly gift wrap? I know that I am.
It takes careful planning to win with any diet, complete a project or stay the course as an entrepreneur. I came up with 3 tips to help you stay consistent. As a writer, I have noticed my highs and lows. Also, I have seen the same trend with my fitness goals.
To become better at something, you must stay consistent. Ever notice that happens when you first start a diet? However, the minute that you slip you fall back into your old habits and you are back to square one.
It helps by starting off with a few steps. Habits take time to become successful. The most important thing is to begin the process.
Writing it down
First, get out a notebook and write down your plan. Think of the steps that you need to put into place. The things that will take you from point A to point B. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
The main idea is to get it all down on paper. This simple step will help you reap the rewards in the short and the long term. Plus, it’s a great way to become organized with your thoughts.
Reevaluate your “why”
Second, ask yourself why it’s important for you to stay consistent. This triggers your “why.” What’s in it for you? Maybe you are doing something for yourself or for someone else. Whatever it is figure out why you want to keep doing it.
If it is a new fitness routine, why do you need to be consistent? Could it be because you were bored with what you were doing? Maybe your old routine wasn’t working for you. Possibly the routine wasn’t the real reason it didn’t work.
That is how consistency plays a big factor in all that you are trying to succeed at. How many times have you started and not finished something because it got too hard? It’s about creating new habits and shedding the ones that didn’t work.
Believe that you can
Finally, the third thing is to believe in yourself. You can’t become consistent if you don’t. Faith in what you are trying to do is everything. Do whatever it takes to instill it in your heart, mind, and spirit.
When you start doing that it makes you more confident. It doesn’t mean that some things may not scare or intimidate you, but you will be ready for those moments. Confidence will help you project it from the inside out. It ends up becoming more visible in your life.
Consistency is what will get you closer to the completion of your goals. It’s a partnership that you create with yourself. You make a pact to get it done.
You make it a point to show up even on the days that you don’t feel like it. Remember 2018 isn’t over yet. You have plenty of time to get into the process.
So, here’s to you for what you are about to recommit to. Think about how much better you’ll be for it. Taking a piece of what is important to you and making it the best that it can be.
Ever get back from a conference fired up to apply everything that you learned? If you haven’t then I highly recommend that you consider the What Women Want National Conference in 2019. I came back from this conference so excited to move forward with my dreams and goals.
The theme this year was to Go Big. Judy Goss put together a conference that had something for everyone. There were a variety of speakers and breakout sessions to choose from.
When you consider attending a conference do your research and be open-minded to what is being taught. There is always something valuable that you can take away from it.
Remember that not every single part of a conference may be a fit for you. This usually depends on the topic and who it is geared towards. Examine the parts that you think might be for you. How can you apply them to what you are doing now?
Fitness and Inspiration
Cathryn Marshall of Simple Fat Burn was a great speaker talking about diet, nutrition and fitness. All things that I am familiar with. I was reminded that I needed to up my water intake. She talked about sugar being in a lot of foods including some fruits and vegetables.
Even 10 minutes of exercise at home is beneficial. It is easy to make things more complicated than what they must be. She reminded us about getting our daily dose of greens too.
Nikki Walter was there with her daughter Addie to talk about their journey. There were some heartfelt moments throughout her story. It’s easy to be inspired by such a beautiful woman that is a hard worker and still finds a way to balance it all.
She was the perfect example of someone holding down a full-time job, a fitness powerhouse and a wonderful mom. The kind of woman that gives other women hope that they can do it too.
Lesley Jane Seymour was a great speaker as well. I connected with her talk. She is all about reinvention in middle age through her platform called Covey Club. I enjoyed her strength and examples of being resilient through some hard times.
Amy Newmark publisher of Chicken Soup for the Soul shared inspiration from some of her books. I have been a huge fan for many years. I couldn’t leave without asking her for a tip on writing for her someday.
The good news is that her tip resonated with me especially on my flight home. I was reading one of the stories when there was a light bulb moment for me. That is what many people can take away from attending a conference. That golden nugget that will be the game changer.
We all have those epiphanies when we are strongly engaged to a speaker. It is about being a listener first, asking questions and then applying those principles. Without the application you stay in the same place.
Put in the Work
Anyone can attend a conference, but not everyone will do the work afterwards. I know that I wasn’t going to be that person that didn’t. Have you ever attended a conference that made you want to do more? Aside from learning things you get the opportunity to network.
You get the chance to establish new friendships. The in between moments when you can talk with each other are the best. People tell you their story and their plans.
What I loved about this conference is that it made you want to go after your goals. This time it made me feel more determined more than ever. Let’s face it when you hit midlife you start realizing that you don’t have all the time in the world.
So, to all the younger people out there go for it! For all my midlife people keep going and don’t stop. You will reap the rewards before you know it.
If you are looking to change your current situation find a conference near you. Buddy up with a friend. Start local then eventually travel to one that is 6 hours or less from you.
Don’t make up all the excuses of why you can’t. I almost wasn’t going to be at this conference this year. However, I made the decision to do whatever it took to be there.
Your Time Is Now
Judy Goss is someone that I admire and respect so much that I knew I had to be there. I am so grateful to her for what she has created and this community of women helps us empower each other. Attending a conference like this makes us see the bigger picture.
Yes, your time is now because we all get the same number of hours in a day. I left this conference feeling so pumped up to Go Big. I can tell you that a year went by fast since I attended last year’s conference. It may be Fall of 2018, but so much can be accomplished before the end of this year.
Pursuing a dream is comparable to the work that you put in when you work out. You have a combination of sweat, tears and continuous hard work. It’s an almost love/hate relationship. Here I am, and I’ve arrived at the second year of my Blog Anniversary.
Time has surely flown on by. Every single step has been worth it. That is how far your passion takes you when you are willing. I stress on the word willing because that is the game changer.
Some people don’t know that I’ve been a writer for so many years. I was a writer before I ever became a blogger. I wrote for free for a while before I made a dime at writing.
However, my commitment is what has kept me going. Have I always been committed? Well I can tell you that I didn’t always feel like staying committed. There is a difference.
You could say that I took a hiatus from writing on a regular basis. Now that I’ve hit mid-life I realize that I don’t have any time to waste. No waiting for the right time either.
It’s a sink or swim mentality. Sounds harsh doesn’t it. That is what it takes to make it with anything that you’ve never done.
Have you ever felt like quitting something because it got too hard?
Keep Going Do It Anyway
That is what a dream does for you. You face the unknowns like a leaf shaking in the wind. You stumble and fall through all the uncertainties but manage to get back up.
You keep on going despite how hard it gets. These past couple of years has taught me about: grit, patience, gratitude, doubt, excitement, being consistent and staying committed to the course.
I have a strong passion for writing inspirational posts and articles that make you feel good. It gives me a lot of joy when a reader tells me something resonated with them. That right there is why I write.
If I can touch a heart, then I’ve done my job. I am super grateful for the friendships that I have made through blogging and for the wonderful opportunities that have come my way.
Be Willing to Continue Learning
I’m continually learning new things. You’d better believe there is never a dull moment. I still don’t know everything, and I’m blessed to work with Linda Mendible because she helps with the behind the scenes that I may not know the answer to with technology. On top of that she is an experienced blogger as well. She is my saving grace.
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to know how to do everything. Part of the excitement with a dream is learning along the way. You figure out what works and what doesn’t. If you can’t do it alone then you ask for help.
I’m finally at a point where I am working on my own book after all these years. I also started my own podcast Arrows & Lattes on top of everything else. That’s the beauty of sticking with something and staying consistent. Sometimes I’m curious about the future and what it will bring my way.
In the meantime, I focus on what I can bring to the table. I aim to inspire, encourage and make a difference whenever I can. If I can pursue my dream all while having a family and a full-time job, then you can follow your dream too.
So, here’s to my second year doing what I love and celebrating my blog anniversary. A huge thank you to all that have come along the journey with me. I know my muse is proud of me, but most importantly so am I.
Often people dread getting older. Especially, during midlife. They feel the clock ticking and it starts to feel like a race. In this post I’ll share my 3 ways a birthday inspires you to keep going.
Embrace Your Age
Embrace the age you are now in this moment and stage in your life. Pull out a notebook and list the things that you love doing. Do any of those things inspire you? They should if you love them.
Some of the things that you enjoyed 10 years ago might not be what you enjoy anymore. As you grow older you start to evolve into a different person. There is a beauty in that when you discover what makes you happy now.
Think about where you are now with the activities that you find yourself drawn to. Maybe you participate in a sport that you weren’t sure of as a kid. I was that kid and now I’m an archer.
Getting another birthday under your belt gives you more opportunities. You get to decide what will inspire you to do things that were forgotten or postponed.
Complete the Things on Your Bucket List
Remember all the stuff that you always thought you’d do. Yes, I’m talking about your bucket list. Do you want to travel the world? Set up a plan to go on your dream destination one step at a time.
If you don’t have the finances, start saving little by little. Examine your bucket list and see what you can do right now. Sometimes it’s not as hard as you think.
Look at having another birthday as a reason to celebrate what makes you unique. If you compared your bucket list with someone else’s how would it be different?
Set up a plan to make these wishes a reality. That should excite you and motivate you to get the ball rolling. Talk with a loved one to help you figure it out.
Keep Moving Forward
You have reached a milestone with a birthday. What are you grateful for? Think of the memories that you have made in the past year. What inspires you to keep moving forward?
Often there are people that could use a thank you. In your circle of loved ones and friends who has shown you the most love and support with your endeavors? Pick up the phone and say thank you.
Get together with the people that you are grateful for having in your life. They matter just as much as you do.
Here’s to another birthday whether you have already celebrated or have one coming up. We all get those candles on our cake. They serve to remind us that we still have time to make those wishes.
So, make your wish and keep moving towards that thing you are meant to accomplish.